A COUPLES COMMUNICATION WEEKEND WORKSHOP
JULY 22-24TH | LEXINGTON, VA
TO HELP YOU BREAKTHROUGH
TO HELP YOU TRANSFORM
Are you ready to transform the communication in your relationship — to go from repeating and avoiding difficult conversations to breaking through them together and truly connecting along the way?
Communication issues don't just get better on their own. In fact, they ONLY get better when two people truly understand how to listen, begin healing from the past, and learn how to see & understand each other in every conversation. But these are tools most people have never been taught... up until now.
Do you want to experience the relationship you long for, truly understand each other & stop experiencing the same conflicts and recurring conversations? Well, I know how to make that happen.
do any of these sound like you?
Sure, the conversations are different for all of us — yours may not be on this list! — but I can tell you as a veteran marriage coach, the themes are there, and they're universal — tension, conflict, blame, defensiveness, isolation, loneliness, hurt, and anger.
I hear about the same arguments and frustrations and over again... from couples who are fighting through these feelings, and the couples who simply aren't HAVING these conversations at all, worried that arguing is a bad sign and to be avoided at all cost.
In my experience coaching thousands of couples, I’ve learned that most men and women in this era had absolutely no model for how to have difficult conversations and emerge better connected and feeling more secure than they were before.
Instead, they're either trained to defend themselves at all cost — to build a case, and fight it out, no matter what... OR to suck it up, overlook the offenses, be the bigger person, and be silent in order to protect the peace. (The kind of peace that doesn't feel very peaceful.)
and here's why:
And hey, maybe you’re not fighting… Maybe you're even proud of that! (The amount of couples I've had proudly tell me they're not fighting, and I realize it's because they're not really talking!)
But whether you're going into combat or delaying it for another day, you’re building a reservoir of bitterness and resentment that can — that will! — sever your relationship if it’s not addressed and worked through.
Oh, friend. I'm Julia, longtime marriage coach and founder of Beautiful Outcome, here to tell you that no matter how it feels right now, your relationship *isn't* broken and wrong. And it can even be so much better than "Well, we don't really fight."
You can have the fun, passionate, & supportive marriage you long for.
You just need better tools, and practice applying them.
I know it's possible for you because we've been there (and back).
For years, my husband & I felt disconnected. We were defensive and critical, blaming each other in difficult conversations. We felt lonely because we didn't know how to have meaningful conversations.
HE OFTEN FELT LIKE
• I was trying to fix him
• He would never make me happy
• He was manipulated & controlled
• His sexual needs were unmet
I OFTEN FELT LIKE:
• I was carrying all the weight
• I got the leftovers
• I was under-appreciated & unloved
• My emotional needs were unmet
But we've learned the tools to transform our conversations... to break through the walls we'd built over time and find deeper and deeper levels of connection, passion, intimacy, and joy.
In my marriage coaching, I've taught thousands of couples the same tools. (And learned that they WORK)
And now, in a first-ever event of its kind, I want to teach them to you:
JOIN ME JULY 22- 24th FOR A TRANSFORMATIVE COUPLES WEEKEND RETREAT
For three days, in training sessions, communication labs, small groups, and fun, connection-creating activities at beautiful Big Spring Farm in Lexington, Virginia, we'll work to unpack those difficult conversations together, learn the tools, AND create the communication habits you can rely on to help you do the same thing over and over again when you return home.
It all starts with learning the tools to embrace the tension and control your reactions & responses.
Then that head knowledge gets moved into practical application as you practice applying the tools.
Now, you & your partner get to combine nature, fun activities & breaking through a conversation.
From there, you get the next layer of support from a few like-minded couples in it with you
And don't forget the romance! Together you can enjoy things like a meal prepared by a Michelin Star Chef
Marriage conferences are sit in a chair and listen to a speaker that sounds like they have figured out the whole marriage thing. You get overloaded with information that seems easy enough. You go home and try to apply it, but you get stuck. You give up and once again think, “Well, that didn’t work. Something must be wrong with us.”
This is not your normal marriage conference, retreat, or workshop.
At the Breakthrough weekend, we're not doing lectures from a stage — this is a practical, tactical time we'll be spending together learning, yes, but then immediately applying what we've learned, so you can develop and build the muscles you'll need to use over and over again in your relationship... all with the help and support of me, my team, and likeminded couples with the same goals you have.
THIS EVENT IS FOR YOU IF:
You'd like to set aside focused time to unite with your partner, invest in your relationship, and come back to "normal life" renewed and reconnected.
You want to break through the unhealthy patterns and communication struggles you're experiencing over and over... and learn a better way.
You're often feeling lonely and disconnected, beginning to lead separate lives as you avoid conflicts and just try to get through life together.
You want to take responsibility for the relationship that you long for (instead of just hoping it happens someday.)
You want to learn how to maintain openness with your partner no matter the conversation — instead of shutting down, and disconnecting in defensiveness.
You realize that hoping or trying to get your partner to change isn't working... you know that the results you want are bigger than you, and you need tools to achieve them...
"My passion for my wife has exploded and I am definitely getting a new definition of intimacy outside of sex.
Gary & Jenn
Your Conversations *Can* Shift
"We are having better, more constructive conversations! As we apply the tools from Julia we are listening to each other with more open minds and less judgment."
Ignacio & Amalia
Replacing loneliness & misunderstanding with seeing & understanding
How does this sound?
Having conversations that actually produce results & lasting changes
Being teammates working side-by-side through the challenges of life
Resolving conflict so past offenses don't keep coming up in new conversations
Laughing & enjoying each other as you fall deeper & deeper in love
"Working with Julia has made SUCH A DIFFERENCE! Seriously, I just cannot believe the difference in each of us! We are truly more in love than we have ever been. On a level we never got to before!"
Ben and Sauah
"Julia has helped us learn to work through fights we've literally had for a DECADE in a matter of minutes."
Aaron and Jen
"We are able to recognize patterns more easily, apologize and restart or try again when we see we’re heading down an unwanted path."
Steve and Whitney
Fri. July 22 6:00 pm
Sat. July 23 10am - 9:30 pm
Sun. July 24 10am - 4:30 pm
Big Spring Farm, Lexington, VA
Training, Meals, & Dating Activities
Where to stay:
Local Hotels & Airbnb's (recommendations provided at sign up)
But I have a secret for you.
EVERYTHING BEAUTIFUL IS BORN FROM TENSION.
When you learn to embrace the tension you're experiencing and see it as an invitation to grow — to become the next best version of yourself (and the person your partner needs in that moment), that's when your opportunity begins.
That's when you begin to transform your relationship with communication, with tension, with difficult conversations, and most importantly, with each other.
That's what we'll begin this weekend.
You won't need to worry about a thing while you are here. We'll take care of the food, fun, and the support you need. All you have to do is work on developing new conversations while having fun and experiencing new things together.
The greatest gift we can give your relationship is the two of you going back home refreshed, feeling deeply connected and empowered through having transformed your conversation together. And...it doesn't stop there!! You will have what you need to transform the next conversation that invites you into deeper love.