It All Began When She Said, "He is WEIRD."

My husband Jeff & I's misunderstanding each other began from the moment we first met in church as little kids (he was 8 and I was 10). I said, "he is WEIRD," because he sat with a kid who cut his fingernails during church. (Seriously?! Yes!) Twelve years later, in church, I would say "YES" to loving and learning to understand him for the rest of my life as I said, "I do!" Over our 30+ years of marriage, we continue to learn more and more about how to truly see & understand each other and love helping other couples do the same. 

The one she thought was Weird turned out to be amazing!!!

I grew up in a violent home as the middle child of seven. I knew I didn't want to communicate in my marriage the way my parents did. I assumed based on how in love I felt, when Jeff & I married, we would communicate differently. Yet, as years passed, in the midst of having children & starting a business together, the disrespect and unresolved conflict grew. I had to find another way to communicate because I didn't want to repeat my past.

My superpower is helping couples learn to see & understand each other even in difficult conversations .... so they can spend their precious time laughing & enjoying life together.

I knew if I wanted to become the spouse I longed to be, I was going to need to learn how to understand and control my emotions, truly forgive, and learn to listen to my husband rather than get defensive in challenging conversations. So, I built my 3 part Communication Renovation System for myself. I am still shocked at how quickly it began transforming me and my marriage.

I started sharing it with other couples on coaching calls, and they started experiencing the same results we were. And now, this system is helping couples all over the world shift from feeling disconnected and lonely to feeling seen & heard by each other.


Marriage is the backbone of a nation and if that is strong, the nation will be strong. 


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Enjoying life with my husband, our kids & granddaughter, on coaching calls with my delightful clients, making dinner, & enjoying a glass of wine & laughing.

daily rituals

Morning gratitudes & reflection, cuddles with my sexy husband, on a hike, chatting with our kids, face timing our granddaughter, and exploring the world in our Airstream.





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My Favorite Things

Family—My love, My husband, kids, and granddaughter who calls me Gigi.

my happy place!

The Beach! It's my zone of serenity where all of my best ideas happen.

Entertaining. I love gathering family and friends over good food, great drinks, and most off all good conversations. I love laughing until I start coughing. (That really happens).

My Favorite Things

Sunshine. Wayfarers kickstarter semiotics, quinoa godard dreamcatcher hexagon pop-up hoodie.

my guilty pleasure

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Ice cream. Microdosing gochujang keffiyeh salvia. Hoodie knausgaard art party.

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Thank you for being passionate about building a lifetime thriving marriage! Please know if you are in a great season or a challenging one in your marriage, there is zero judgement from me because those are both normal within a lifetime marriage. No matter where you are, I am here to help you grow the marriage you desire so you can focus on enjoying life with your spouse!

Did we just become best friends?