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My superpower is helping couples learn to see & understand each other even in difficult conversations .... so they can spend their precious time laughing & enjoying life together.  

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Talking to my husband often felt like talking to a brick wall. In a desire to connect through conversation, I would ask Jeff questions and all I would get in return were one word answers. It would leave me wanting to scream (and sometimes, I did! 🫣). Can you relate? Conversations and sex in your […]

What Conversations and Sex Have in Common

Communication Growth

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When only one spouse shows desire to work on the marriage, it can leave that spouse feeling stuck, unhappy, and even hopeless.

When only one spouse shows desire to work on the marriage, it can leave that spouse feeling stuck, unhappy, and even hopeless. I’ve been there! Let’s see how we can move towards improving your marriage without your spouse! It was exhausting feeling like I was the one taking on all of the work to improve […]

How to Improve Your Marriage without Your Spouse

Communication Growth

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If you love your spouse and desire to continue learning and growing into your marriage, all while protecting your marriage from divorce. The #1 sign of divorce

Tuning out what he would say, rolling my eyes, Interrupting what he was saying, finishing his sentences, correcting him, pointing out where he was wrong, mocking him, deep signs when he said things, minimizing him with my tone of voice, sarcasm towards what he said, fixing what he would do, look of disgust towards them. […]

The #1 Sign of Divorce

Communication Growth

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stop complaining and start making requests in your marriage

I was a complaining spouse in our marriage and I had no idea! I’m not proud to admit it, but It wasn’t until I learned what a complaint actually was that I realized, I was in fact complaining about everything. And it almost destroyed our marriage. I’m here to help you recognize and stop complaining […]

How to stop complaining in your marriage

Communication Growth

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There is so much time left to make 2023 the year you transform your marriage.

Did you create any New Year’s resolutions this year? If so, how are they going? Researchers say only 19% of New Years resolutions are kept for longer than a month. We may be well into the third month of the year, and your resolutions may be a part of the 81% that have already been […]

3 ways to improve your marriage RIGHT NOW

Marriage Growth

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Marriage counseling, or therapy, is different from marriage coaching. Wondering about the difference is a question I get asked often and I thought it was the perfect first episode to set the stage moving forward.

Marriage counseling, or therapy, is different from marriage coaching.

Why Marriage Coaching vs. Marriage Counseling

Marriage Growth

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