Did you know that apologies can impact your marriage negatively? In today’s YouTube episode, I’m tackling a crucial aspect of relationships – apologizing. I have a surprising reason why apologizing might be hurting your marriage and an alternative that can draw you and your spouse closer together. 

The Definition

According to Oxford Language, an apology is a regretful acknowledgment of an offense or failure. Ever notice that apologies start with “I am sorry,” making them about the person who committed the offense? Apologies are not about the one they hurt or offended.

The Impact of Apologies

Typically, apologies arise when our actions cause emotional or mental pain to someone else, leaving them to grapple with the aftermath. When we apologize, it is a self-focused act, coming from our internal suffering and not addressing what the other person is feeling. As I candidly share personal experiences, like the times I yelled at my husband, you’ll witness the gradual erosion of trust and connection despite my repeated apologies.

Trying Something Different

So, what’s the alternative? If you genuinely want to transform a behavior that hurts your spouse, you need to ask for forgiveness. To really become aware of the impact of our choices it is helpful to begin by seeking a greater understanding of our impact by asking our spouse what they felt when you___________. [fill in the blank]. 

Doing this takes bravery as you come face-to-face with your impact. However, it can be the catalyst for change! Remember, asking for forgiveness is not about you but honestly acknowledging your choices and directly addressing the other person’s suffering, giving them a chance to release the offense they are carrying. 

Join Me On My Own Personal Journey

Embark on this eye-opening journey with me as I recount personal stories, such as seeking forgiveness for my tendency to yell at my husband. The impact was profound—it initiated change, rebuilding trust, and fostering a deeper connection. This alternative isn’t just about acknowledging mistakes; it’s about actively participating in the healing process.

Watch Now! 

Dive into the full episode on my YouTube channel. 

Share your thoughts, experiences, and questions in the comments below the episode. Have you tried asking for forgiveness, and what was the outcome? Your insights can spark meaningful conversations and collective learning.

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