Do you ever feel like your spouse is the source of all your marriage problems? Have you found yourself trapped in a cycle of blame and frustration, convinced they hold you back from happiness? If so, I understand exactly how you feel because I’ve been there too. Hi, I’m Julia Woods, a couples coach with over three decades of marriage experience, and I want to share a bit of my personal journey of facing the harsh realities of marriage dynamics in hopes of helping you avoid the suffering I did.

When couples first come to me for help, it’s not uncommon for them to believe that their partner has the bigger issues. I used to think the same way. I was convinced that my husband’s struggles with depression and addiction were the root cause of our marital strife. But as I soon discovered, the truth was far more complex.

I played the caretaker role

In our marriage, I played the caretaker role, tirelessly trying to fix everything for my husband so he could get better. Little did I know, that my efforts to shield him from the consequences of his actions were only enabling his destructive behavior. It wasn’t until I took a step back and examined my own role in our dysfunctional dynamic that I began to see things clearly.

Blaming my spouse was easy

It allowed me to avoid taking responsibility for my own actions and choices. But in doing so, I was perpetuating a victim mindset that kept us both stuck in a cycle of resentment and despair. It wasn’t until I embraced a mindset of responsibility that real change began to occur.

I embarked on a journey of self-discovery and growth. I challenged my limiting beliefs and made intentional choices to break free from the cycle of blame. Slowly but surely, our marriage began to transform.

If you’re resonating with my story and ready to confront the hard truths of your marriage, I invite you to watch my recent YouTube episode, “My Spouse is the Problem.” Let’s take ownership of our happiness together and create the thriving marriages we deserve.

If you’re eager to dive deeper into transforming your mindset and cultivating connection in your marriage, be sure to check out my free ebook, “Turn Defensiveness Into Connection,” available in the video description. It’s time to reclaim your power and build the loving, fulfilling marriage you’ve always dreamed of.

Click here to watch the full YouTube episode, “My Spouse is the Problem”

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