Do you yearn for a more supportive partner? Have you ever paused to reflect on your own role in your marriage dynamics? In today’s episode, I, Julia Woods, delve into the vital topic of support in marriage and share how embracing personal responsibility transformed my own relationship.

Marriage serves as a mirror, reflecting our actions and attitudes. It’s easy to get caught up in grievances about what our partner isn’t doing rather than examining our contributions. I’ve experienced firsthand how this negativity can corrode the foundation of a relationship, nearly dismantling my own.

But salvation came when I embraced personal responsibility—a mindset shift that revolutionized my marriage. Personal responsibility involves owning 100% of the vision for the marriage we desire, focusing on our contributions, and calling ourselves to growth. It’s not the most popular approach, but it’s undeniably effective.

Throughout my years as a couples coach, I’ve witnessed this transformative power in action. Couples on the brink of divorce rediscovered the joy of partnership when each spouse committed to fully owning their role.

As we focus on personal responsibility, let’s explore five signs indicating a lack of supportiveness towards our spouse:

1. Minimizing your spouse’s feelings: Dismissing or downplaying your partner’s emotions undermines their sense of validation and trust in the relationship.
2. Failure to follow through: Consistency is key in demonstrating reliability and commitment to your partner’s well-being.
3. Neglecting to celebrate their wins: Recognizing and rejoicing in your spouse’s achievements fosters a culture of encouragement and appreciation.
4. Making everything about you: Self-centeredness stifles effective communication and diminishes your spouse’s sense of value within the relationship.
5. Avoidance of difficult conversations: Embracing discomfort and addressing issues head-on is essential for growth and intimacy in marriage.

Each of these signs presents an opportunity for growth and introspection. By nurturing a culture of support and accountability within our marriages, we unlock the true potential of partnership.

As you read this, I invite you to ask yourself, on a scale of 1 to 10, what number best represents the support you currently offer your spouse? 

If you want to grow your ability to support your spouse, I invite you to listen to my latest YouTube episode now.