Have you ever feared that your marriage is not going to last and that you will wind up as another divorce statistic? You don’t have to navigate your marriage in constant worry. In this post, I share with you the 5 secrets that will turn your fear into confidence so that you can have a successful marriage and avoid the divorce trap!
5 Secrets for a Great Marriage
1. Humility Is Required
This does not mean we become a doormat but instead, you and your spouse both gain a “we” vs. a “me” posture.
When you can shift your focus from self to what WE as a couple think, feel, want to do in a certain scenario, need, etc. you develop the very powerful character trait of humility. Doing this begins to help you see life from a bigger perspective of partnership rather than the individuality of Me, Myself, and I.
2. Personal Development Is a Must
Marriage gives us plenty of opportunities for self-discovery. What is that darkness inside of you that comes out in conflict that you might want to avoid getting to know?
If you face it, you can learn and grow, but if you pretend it doesn’t exist, your personal growth will become stagnant and your marriage will be affected.
3. Growth Presents Itself Through Conflict
Conflict will happen and it is not a problem unless you choose to avoid it. Conflict can actually be a gift if you choose to work through it and grow!
Think of conflict as a weight you lift, like a barbell, that can help develop and grow you as an individual so you can strengthen your marriage. Conflict is not something to run from and avoid but something to embrace and work through it.
How we navigate conflict with our spouse determines our level of connection.
Treat your marriage like your greatest asset and it will be. Where are you spending your time? Where are you spending your money? Are you valuing and investing in your marriage and treating it like your greatest asset or valuing other things above it?
Wherever you put your attention, your energy flows. If you treat it like your greatest asset, it will be your greatest asset in life.
5. Playing & Chatting are the nourishment to marriage
You played and chatted while falling in love, but once we get married it’s easy to let life get busy.
Playing and chatting are the very nutrients that a marriage needs to stay strong.
The key to playing and chatting is to get out of the routine of going to the same restaurant you may go to and the typical conversations you may have. I encourage you to explore new conversations, ask questions you may be nervous to ask, and try new things!
If you will give yourself to investing in these five secrets as a way that you are committed to growing and showing up, I promise you, you will have a great marriage.
If you want to hear me talk about this more, I want to invite you to join me today on my latest YouTube episode, “Avoiding the Divorce Trap: 5 Secrets to a Successful Marriage.”
What secret is a new concept to you that you will begin implementing TODAY? Head over to the YouTube episode and I would love to hear from you in the comments!
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