Conflict is an inevitable part of any marriage and how we navigate makes all the difference. In my latest YouTube episode, I, Julia, a couples coach, share 12 powerful phrases to help you turn conflict into an opportunity for growth and connection.
The Power of Words and Presence
When conflicts arise with your spouse, it’s easy to feel clueless about what to say to foster understanding and love, which is why I am excited to share the 12 powerful phrases for a life-giving conversation.
However, before we delve into the phrases, it’s essential to understand that it’s not just about the words you choose—it’s about your presence. If the way you deliver any of these phrases speaks of arrogance, being right, and being unwilling to hear your spouse, then these words will not help you at all. Connecting with your spouse isn’t about the words you say, it is about using words to bring about your commitment to love and honor your spouse as you partner together in creating the marriage you both long for. When you are focused on that, these words can help you get there.
12 Powerful Phrases to Transform Conversations
Here are the 12 powerful phrases that can transform your conversations during conflicts.
- I want to connect with you.
- Can you help me understand what you’re feeling right now?
- I would feel that way, too, if I saw it that way
- Can we take a break and own what we are each contributing?
- Can you say that in a way I can hear?
- What I hear you saying is…
- Can we pause for 5 minutes?
- Will you forgive me?
- Can we go again?
- Ask them a question about what they said
- Can I have a few minutes to think about what you are saying?
- I can understand why you feel that way.
Call to Action: Understand better!
In this week’s YouTube video, I go through each of these phrases more thoroughly, why they work, and how to use them. Watch the full episode to discover these transformative phrases.
Strengthening Connections Together
As we navigate the ups and downs of married life, let’s empower ourselves with effective communication tools. Subscribe to the YouTube channel for more insightful episodes, and don’t forget to give the video a thumbs up if you find it helpful. Share this episode with friends who may benefit from life-giving conversations with their spouses.
Let’s build stronger connections together, one phrase at a time.
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